How To Work Love Languages Into Your Elopement
Planning a wedding on a large OR on a small scale can be overwhelming. Heck, even if you’re planning to elope, nowadays, that ALSO takes some planning! Your wedding day comes only once and of course, you want to make sure your plans go smoothly. You want your favorite photographer and videographer, your favorite flowers, a beautiful, scenic backdrop for your special day, etc. The list goes on and on. However, I am here to remind you in a short and sweet blog post that the day you marry your sweetheart is exactly that!! It’s a day exclusively about you two. Whether you like to be put in the spotlight or not, this day is all about you! So, after the chaos of the planning, the wedding dress shopping, and amidst the cheers from your friends, hugs from your family, and people texting you to congratulate you, I challenge you to step away.
Step away from the chaos and take a moment with your partner and soak it in. Take a moment to acknowledge the importance of what you’re doing- the special and sacred aspect of getting married. You two made a commitment to be together forever, through sickness and in health, through good times and in bad. This is AMAZING! Not everyone makes it to this point. I challenge you to acknowledge that by giving your partner what they need- love language style. Please allow me to give some suggestions:
Words of Affirmation
If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, then I invite you to TELL them why have made you so happy on this special day. Take it from me, who lives and breathes this particular love language (lol), being told that I am loved and cherished puts me over the moon! Express to your partner why you feel SO lucky to be their spouse. Tell them that you love them and always, always will. Tell them that you will never forget this day. This will put you and your partner in the right mindset for your wedding day and help you focus on what’s most important. Another option could be to write letters to each other to read before the ceremony to lift each other up and remind each other of why you’re taking this big step together.
2. Quality Time
If your soon to be spouse loves some good old fashioned quality time, then give them that! Before your ceremony, whether it’s the day before or an hour before, go see them! You don’t have to follow the “can’t see the bride before the wedding” tradition if you don’t want to! You’re in control, and if your partner wants it, your partner gets it! ;) Talk about your memories that have led you up to this day. Sit back and laugh and do something you love to do together to gear you up for your special day. Your partner will feel loved and even more excited to marry you!
3. Acts of Service
If your fiancé feels loved through your acts of service, then this one’s for you! Show them you care by making sure their day goes smoothly. Lay out your groom’s tux, boutonniere, and ring so he doesn’t have to worry about forgetting anything in the morning and stressing. Have your bride’s favorite breakfast pastry and drink delivered to where she is getting ready in the morning, so that she is energized and feels loved and appreciated by you before she meets you down the aisle. Acts of service can be so personalized to the person receiving them- and who knows what your partner will like better than you!?
4. Physical Touch
If your partner loves physical touch, then take some time after the ceremony to sneak away from the crowds for just a few minutes. Hold each other’s hands, look into each other eyes and bask in that “newly married” light! Kiss each other and celebrate- I mean, come on- YOU JUST GOT MARRIED! Make sure you take all of it in, giving each other the physical affirmations you need. There will be time to talk to your guests later. :)
5. Gifts
And finally, if your fiancé is a fan of giving and receiving gifts, then you know what to do! Whether it’s before the ceremony or after, exchange gifts with each other. One option could be giving each other gifts to open when you’re individually getting ready for the ceremony to show how much you love each other and how excited you are to be marrying them. Or another option could be finding some alone time and exchanging gifts in person after the ceremony. Giving gifts is a way to show that you are thankful for them.
Whatever love language you and your soon-to-be spouse might be, I challenge you to recognize and celebrate it! Honor the one you love because there really isn’t a more romantic day than the day you get married. :)
P.S. If you can’t already tell, I am obsessed with love languages! When I work with couples, it’s personal and I like to get to know your love story and how you show that love. Let’s chat about love and how we can document your love for years to come!
